It’s much easier to become a father than to be one.Kent Nerburn, Letters to My Son: Reflections on Becoming a Man, 1994
Welcome to Dads in Progress – a place for men of all ages and backgrounds to learn what it means to be a dad, share their experiences (good and bad), and reflect on their journey through the difficult and wonderful times of raising children.
I should start by explaining how this blog came into being.
I found that I had no real place to turn to for help and guidance when I became a father. Sadly my father passed away before my first child was born and, to be honest, we never had the father/son relationship I would have liked beforehand. So when my first son came along, at the not so ripe age of 24, I felt completely overwhelmed with the task in front of me. It was my job to take this tiny person and teach him what it was to be man, love him unconditionally, show him right from wrong, and guide him through life. I wasn’t sure that I completely understood life myself or what it was to be a man so how was I going to impart wisdom on him?
Despite that I had 3 more children (including twins) and life just carried on regardless. I read books and searched the internet to find out how to do this job right but the truth is being a dad is just one big trial by fire. I learn by doing, and when I screw up I take it as another lesson and get on with it; constantly learning, constantly improving, doing it wrong and then doing it better.
I am a Dad in Progress
You don’t become Super Awesome Dad overnight (despite what your children may think), it takes a lot of hard work and hard lessons to get incrementally better every single day but you know what, I can’t think of anything I would rather put every ounce of my effort into. I am not an expert. I am not the finished article nor will I ever be. But I do have experiences that I want to share with other dads in complete openness and honesty and hope that other dads feel the same way.
Let’s learn off each other because our children need us to be the best dads we can be.
Matt – dad of 4 amazing kids who think I’m amazing.